I was interviewed this week on a “Faith and Infertility” series podcast, talking about our journey through infertility, loss, suffering, and adoption.

Reliving a journey of tears is never easy, yet in the spirit of bringing hope I was honored to share our story.

One of the most poignant questions I was asked was…

“What do you say to someone who is in great despair right now, hopeless, maybe even angry at God about their journey and pain?”

I’ve been asked this many times over the last ten years, yet this time something different came out of my mouth first…

“No one can successfully navigate suffering alone. We MUST have relationships and a community we can lean on and depend on when our own faith is under siege.”

This answer unlocked a subsequent flood of sorts, on this subject of not doing life alone…

We are made to be in relationships, doing life with people who deeply care, those we can share our dreams and hopes with, trustworthy friends. They notice when we’re not at work or didn’t make it to church or a connect group this week.

They’re like those friends who took their sick friend on a cot to go meet Jesus. Arriving where He was speaking they found no room to get close.

Undaunted, they hoisted their friend up onto the roof and started attacking that roof until a hole big enough was ready. They lowered him down right in front of Jesus, who healed the man and marveled at the faith of those friends.

Don’t you want friends like that?! Unrelenting, energized by your need instead of put off by it? Focused on getting you to your miracle no matter what it takes.

I had a group of friends just like this, who helped carry the miracle of our twin daughters into our arms. They prayed for years ahead of time, and when the news of the pregnancy emerged, went to prayer around the clock til the decision was made in our favor.

For years prior they bought me baby gifts, left voicemails saying, “They’re coming don’t give up.” They stood, prayed, believed, and broke through roofs til our faith became sight.

No wonder I call them my midwives! I honor them still and want to be this unrelenting with friends still suffering and hopeless right now.

So how do you find these unrelenting friends?

During seasons when we may not feel so desperate for friends is actually a great time to find these faithful types. Dive in, network, get to know one person and let them lead you to others. This is exactly what I did when moving to NYC, knowing only one person and starting over relationship-wise at nearly 40 yrs old.

I’ll share the link to this infertility interview soon when it’s posted, but meanwhile let me encourage you that true friends are borne for adversity. Their hope and faith can help save you from losing yours.

They’re also the best ones to party with when your miracle happens and joy returns!

I’m cheering you on in whatever you’re still waiting for right now…

I hope you’ve had a great week…

I’m heading into a busy season of travel and speaking for the next 4-6 weeks, and remind myself it’s a privilege when explaining to the girls why Mommy has to leave again for a few days.

They fuss, question, and then get through it fine. Between my assistant/nanny and my all-star husband, the household goes on so I can get up and go where doors have opened.

Having clarity on our calling is so important isn’t it? Knowing WHY we do what we do, and having a sense of our divine assignment, helps us plow through the challenges, obstacles, and scheduling.

When I was single in my 20’s and 30’s, working long hours for little pay, wondering how I’d get from the day job to the life-calling job, it often felt like a mix of random experimenting and paying the bills.

I look back now, with many more years in the bag and realize…it all feels the same.

Yes there are moments of reward, job promotions, the big transfer to NYC and landing my first book deal. But most of the time, from sun up to sun down, it all feels the same.

What is this “same?”

It’s the daily routines, the getting up, going to bed and everything in between. It’s lingering questions like…

Am I doing enough to make a mark? To be memorable? To get ahead?

We wonder why fulfillment is often elusive, sporadic, or just not as fulfilling as we thought it would be.

Which is why PURPOSE matters. Purpose answers the question, “Why?” Why am I doing any of this anyway? Why did God put me here at this job, with these people, doing these things?

If we ponder, pray, and keep moving, we CAN find our purpose, then let it be the GPS telling us where to turn and how to arrive at destinations worth the drive.

After years of doing “Discover Your Purpose” workshops, I’ll soon be launching an online course I’m so excited about bringing to you, with modules, tools, and inspiration to help you know, with conviction, why you’re here.

One way to get ready for these discoveries is by asking God to reveal His heart and intentions for your life. Then watch for signs and signals about what you love most, where your impact occurs for others, and the dreams in your heart intended to accompany your purpose journey.

It does feel long and boring at times, but over time, we realize these days are the best days, and enjoying the “now” prepares us for what comes next.

Let’s keep in touch as your journey of purpose continues.

I’m cheering you on as you head into this weekend…


Hello friend, I hope you’ve had a wonderful week!

Beginning this weekend, I’m sending out a little recap of my Instagram posts with added content, backstories, and more photos.

I love Instagram but there’s always so much more to share, so hopefully you’ll find these occasional weekly reviews fun, helpful, inspiring and beautiful.

Labor Day was a wonderful kick-off to fall wasn’t it?! We cleaned our garage after Ron discovered a small snake. I HATE snakes and we knew even though the little guy hid in a crack, that we couldn’t let him stay. So I ran to the store to get some sulphur, Ron sprinkled it all around the cracks and finally a shop-vac got the thing out of the crack and out of our vicinity. Yay for a husband who is strong and bold when it comes to these things.

I’ve been making peach pies like they’re going out of style this summer, and have decided it’s my all-time favorite dessert. The girls have been learning pie skills as well which has been fun. Peaches have to be in season to make a good pie, and I like mini pies made in small tart pans with crust only on the top.

There was a time I made all pie crusts from scratch, never again! Trader Joe’s frozen pie crusts are my go-to solution, they’re delicious and save so much time.

Here’s the little recipe that never fails to make your mouth shout YES, it’s adapted from my Grandma Troyer’s peach pie which makes me very happy when I think of her, an incredible woman who loved Jesus and her family so much.

Peach Pie (makes about 4 small tart pies)

5 ripe peaches, peeled and sliced evenly

2 T. Sugar

1 T. Flour

1/2 t. Cinnamon

Dash nutmeg and dash salt

1/4 t. Almond extract

Mix all above ingredients together. Grease your tart dishes lightly with butter. Pour peach mixture into tart filling each one full. Dot the top with small slices of butter (maybe 1/2 t per tart). Cover with strips of pie crust. Bake at 400 until golden brown. Serve with vanilla ice cream (Haagen Dazs of course!)

Last Tuesday, direct from my kitchen table, I presented a 90-minute webinar, “The Leader as Innovator — Designing Your Dream Job Now” for the IMA Academy.  If you missed it you can listen to the content here.

Grateful it got high reviews since I really love helping people find fresh inspiration and ideas for loving their work more. 1,300 attended and several sent such sweet notes, thanking me for the practical insights and help.. Reminded that taking time to send thanks is always a classy gesture.


 The twins and I have enjoyed making basil pesto with the harvest from one small plant I put in the ground in May. I LOVE pesto as a snack with tortilla chips or for sauces on pasta. We also love it spread on a thick slice of toast topped with chopped tomatoes drizzled with a bit of balsamic glaze.  Here’s my easy recipe adapted from the Silver Palate Cookbook for the last 20 years.

Fill a mini food processor with basil leaves, add 3/4 cup walnuts, 2 cloves garlic finely chopped or pressed, 1/2 cup olive oil, 1/2 t. Salt, ground black pepper. Pulse chop this mixture til it’s like bread crumb consistency. Add about 1/2 c. Parmesan cheese and pulse more til well-blended but not too smooth. Freeze in ice cube trays for use all winter in sauces.

Have a wonderful fall weekend!




Ron and I are speaking for a marriage conference today in Nashville, called No Ordinary Love. In the spirit of this week’s Valentine Video series (links below if you missed them) I thought you may enjoy a few of our talking points that are relevant to singles and marrieds alike.

Surprise, This is It! — Every story has surprise twists and turns — surprises that can feel like beautiful gifts or more like, “Surprise your toilet is overflowing!”  Accepting our own story and celebrating it, is a choice not a feeling. God can turn every surprise into a gift through patience and perseverance.

The Dance of Dysfunction — The cycle typically goes… I Hurt, I Want, I Fear, I React. Each step triggers the next, and we tend to find dance partners whose dysfunctions marry well to ours. One broken step from me leads to a reaction from you, and the missteps occur until we tire of the dysfunction and break free, often through counseling coupled with years of re-training our patterns toward health.

Prescription for a Great Marriage — 1. Personal Wholeness, 2.Clear Priorities, 3. Purpose

There’s much more to share, but suffice it to say anyone who wants No Ordinary Love will have to invest the work, stay the course, and believe that different than what we thought, can be better than what we expected.

Speaking of which, here are this week’s short little inspiration videos intended to encourage every waiting heart to keep hoping and never settle for less than the best. Enjoy!

Barbie Was Married    https://youtu.be/7u51v27y5jU
Brokenness Is a Pain  https://youtu.be/cMVqHm0fRJg
Dates and Heartbreak  https://youtu.be/lzwnHp4tHlo
We are also offering a special discount on my book, Remember the Roses, a handbook for anyone waiting on true love (why not give this as a Valentines gift for anyone you know who is waiting?)

Click on this  link for more details on this Tuesday’s webinar, “The Leader as Innovator — Designing Your Dream Job Now” starting at 1 pm EST.

I’m super excited about the content I’ll be sharing, because it’s already helped so many find the passion and energy they’ve been lacking in their work. Over 1500 have already signed up and I hope you will too.

This special session presented by the IMA Academy is for their members, but they’re opening it up for my friends at no cost, but you do need to register here (you’ll be listed as my “Presenter Guest”).

You’ll learn practical ways you can innovate NOW to deepen your fulfillment, grow your network, and advance your own aspirations in the midst of your current work and demands.

Hope to be with you on Tuesday for a big dose of fresh inspiration…



Are you like me, and sometimes just need a fresh dose of encouragement especially when it comes to work?

If so, I’m excited to invite you to two events that can immediately impact your fulfillment and joy relative to work and daily life.

The first is a national webinar this coming Tuesday, September 5, from 1-2:30 p.m. EST. The topic is: “The Leader as Innovator — Designing Your Dream Job Now.”

I’ll be discussing fun and practical ways to create new paths of fulfillment, influence, and recognition starting today, whether you love your job a lot, a little, or not much at all. Over 1,600 have already signed up for this and I hope you will too.  It’s FREE but you do need to register, and can do so here.

The second is our quarterly Love Your Life event, September 25, 7-8:30 p.m. in New York City. These are dynamic women’s events focused on power networking, inspiration, and advancing our dreams. We often sell out so get your tickets now, and if you know of friends in NYC please pass this along to them.


Are you following me on Instagram? I’m adding lots of fun new things and hope you’ll join the journey of loving life a little more each day.

Always cheering you on,







Six months ago following a routine mammogram, I was told those shocking words…”You have breast cancer.”

What? I’ve been focused on health and nutrition for years, an avid runner, emotionally healthy, how can this happen to me?

But alas, the journey began. Given the very public journey our family walked while our beloved son Jordan was battling cancer, we decided to do this one privately, in hopes that when it was over, we could share the story and victory all in one moment.

That moment was yesterday, when in a morning message at our church, King’s Park, I shared the “Shock and Awe” message about navigating the valley, out to a place of healing.

Here is a link to the 30 minute podcast, if you’d like to hear more.

Shock and Awe

This message highlights the faithfulness of our great God, the one who delivers us through life’s shocks, and brings awe every time.

I could not have endured this battle without the strong support of my amazing husband, parents, sister, daughter-in-law Cady who was living with us and stood by my side every moment, our sons and their wives who cheered and prayed, and closest friends who pray unceasingly every time we face a need.

I’d also like to recognize friends who have walked this path before and whose inspiration of overcoming helped me tremendously during some of the darkest hours: Ami Dockery, Carol McLeod, Holly Wagner, Christine Caine, Lisa Bevere, Darlene Zschech, Jan Greenwood, Lisa Clark, Renette Kendall, Kirsten LaCourse, Starr Clay, and Fran Boyd.

Today I am through this battle, onto even greater health, looking forward to a long life of fulfilling adventures and purpose fulfilled.





I had the great honor of being selected to do a TEDx Talk, and am excited to announce it’s official release this week!

If you know anyone who could use a fresh infusion of hope, then this may be a timely link to share. The talk is titled, “My Dream Died, Now What?”

It was a rigorous process to apply and then be selected out of hundreds of applicants and a tough set of coaches and peers evaluating every step of the way. But I honestly LOVED it, and am deeply honored for this chance to share my life story in just under 12 minutes.

The audience laughed, cried, and stood to their feet in applause at the surprise ending, a moment I was humbled by and will never forget.

TED Talks are showcased around the world, and if you find this one worth sharing, I’d be so grateful if you would post to your social media and help us spread this message of hope and courage for anyone struggling through a dream, or enduring a season of waiting.

Thank you for being a fellow believer in the power of a dream!