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Last week our friend T-Bone Barnes died suddenly of a heart attack.  We got the call at midnight and rushed to the hospital to be with his wife Sheila. Just hours before he was at the church prayer meeting, sharing this scripture with a young woman preparing for a missions trip.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
 in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight. Prov.3:5-6

This is one of my favorite life passages, having clung to it at times when nothing circumstantially made sense. 

  • Years of waiting on marriage, no possibilities, such hopelessness
  • Miscarriage, surgeries, infertility, no answers
  • Stage 4 cancer in our 3rd son, crying out for a miracle
  • Working tirelessly for victims of sex-trafficking, opposition, sleepless nights

Life is full of mysteries, yet one Anchor holds when we choose to trust the One who makes crooked paths straight, eventually.  It is a choice after all, and having seen God’s faithfulness prove true every time, I will live no other way.

He is wiser, more loving, kinder, more faithful, generous, even lavish, beyond our understanding.  And so, we trust in Him.




So often things in life feel so random. Desires not yet realized appear crazy and seemingly impossible. Hopes are deferred and doors we knock on slam shut or never even budge.

The older I get the more I’m convinced when we’re living for God, surrendered to His purposes, nothing is random.  Proverbs 16:9 says, “In his heart a man plans his course but the LORD determines his steps.” So true and so encouraging.

Relationships in particular, may start out small but lead to strategic possibilities.  Three in my life come to mind. Two were bright young students I hired as Alumni Director at Oral Roberts University. Both went on to become CFOs and invited me into business opportunities I’ve loved (John Maxwell’s Speakers Bureau thanks Reggie, and Solavei thanks Nathan!)

Five years ago at a small book signing in D.C. I met Charity Wallace who worked for Laura Bush.  She took a signed copy of my book to Mrs. Bush and I got a beautiful thank you letter back. No further contact but five years later Charity thought of me for the George and Laura Bush Women’s Initiative which I’m loving being part of as a mentor and workshop leader.  We’re heading to Egypt for a week in September, thanks Charity!

What all this means in my opinion, is the need to dream on all cylinders, and experiment in the direction of even random desires.  As my dear mentor Carole Hyatt puts it, “Knock on all doors and see which ones open.”

We can hold onto these promises… “The desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.” Prov.13:4.  “Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.”  I believe this means “give” as in grant, but also “give” as in putting the desire there in the first place.

Life is such an exciting adventure.  And nothing is random.

This song from our MSNY service last night inspires me in this direction


I got an email recently from a woman who attended my workshop on Personal Branding. She liked the idea I shared about making the effort to get published in some form, be it in a magazine, online, or via various blogs, but had further questions. In responding to what she asked, I thought our entire community might appreciate the suggestions, so here goes….

Getting your thoughts and ideas published is an instant brand and credibility-builder. If you want to write something that further establishes you as an expert and a success in your field, think about which publications are read most by your clients, potential clients, or audiences you really want to reach. Then take a look at the types of articles featured in those publications with an eye for something new, unique, or timely that you can address.

Outlets are constantly in search of good content, and given that you are an expert (we are all experts in something!) then trust your own perspectives and judgments in this regard. What do you want to read more about, know more of, hear more about? Your answers will guide your content as you develop what you’ll write.

Once you know of an outlet you’d like to pursue, consider calling one of the editors and chatting with them about your ideas, finding out what they’re looking for in potential articles. A good way to start this dialogue is to compliment an author on an article you like. Oftentimes writers, publishers, or editors will put their personal email addresses in the publication, and you can reach out to them directly with questions and ideas, making the process collaborative. So few people ever do this so if you do, you will stand out and typically get a great response.

As you’re writing, be sure to offer practical tips and ideas that the reader can use (how-to articles are appreciated and memorable.) Once you have an article in hand, you can then post this same article on your own website, use it as a blog, etc. One article can go a long way in establishing you as an expert and credible voice. It’s amazing how when you get published in some fashion, you gain credibility that can help open new doors.